Rings For A Life Time

There we both stand with rings in our hands waiting in that stage. Hey, smart reader, we are talking about ENGAGEMENT.

A small shock just passed through my spine when my dad called me during my office hours and told so casually " You are getting engaged this Sunday!!!!"I was like WHAT?!

After our first step "Pennukanal" which I have already mentioned in my last blog, we now reach to officially announce the relation. If this was in some European country it will be like the man you loved will be in his knees with a ring asking those golden words. WILL YOU MARRY ME?

Oooh! How romantic. Right? Some people get lucky enough here also. Some people get their proposal during college days or in their office. They may have a similar kind of experience to share.

Here I discuss the normal case. Where our parents decide if you two get married or not. Then comes your opinion. So, after all these hungama and great search there you both stand.

But, do you think the tension part is over and you are free now? Let me tell you this is just the introduction.

Once you know you are getting engaged then you need 100 and more things to decide. In the meantime, you need to concentrate on the new relationship you are about to begin with HIS family and of course with him also.

Don't worry. I got it covered for you guys. Yeah, thank me later for this.

So here are my Tips:

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1. Start Phone Calls

The base of a good relationship is mutual understanding and trust. If you are gonna be strangers things will get awkward. So, you should start calling each other, at least texting.

NB: This same rule applies to his family also. If you are a chatterbox like me :) Then you should call your In-Laws every day and ask for their well being also. Most probably you can expect a call from his family to your family first and they may ask your number. Well, this was what happens in my case.

("I do call my both home every day and tell them about how was my day")

2. MeetUp During The Shopping

This tip is only useful to those people who are living in the same city.

You both can discuss with each other and meet in the textile shop or for lunch on that same day. This will help in connecting with each others family.

3. Selecting your Attire

If you are a non-fashion enthusiast you won't be even worried about this step. But at least somebody in your family will be worried about this.

I will say you need to get into a more broad vision for this. You will be the center of attraction and don't forget the DSLR pictures also. This is like once in a life time chance. So you can check out a good lookbook for this. I will definitely write more about this. wait for it.will give a link for the same here once I finish it.

REMEBER one thing: Purchase within the budget. Don't go for overpriced things. Whatever you be wearing that day re-use for the same will be below 10%. Keep that in mind always.

4. Ornaments

This is a small function. This will happen between your close relatives and friends. You don't need to showcase all of your ornaments now.

It is better to go with one simple Chalker which will go with your saree, lehenga. Suitable earings and bangles will give a good look.

5.Makeup and Hair

This is something not in our hands. This purely depends on your budget and skill of the beautician you hired.

If you have a regular beautician you are lucky. You can even ask for discounts and she will know your best looks also.

6. Opinions

You may wonder now what is this about. I keep this point in the last mainly because I don't want to spoil the fun and happiness. 

Although I have said how to select each and everything before the big day you will get tons of opinions from your parents and friends. Your parents may even use the melodramatic versions as "I have dreamt you getting engaged in this style". Okay, So you need to adjust a little bit.

After all, they are your parents. So listen to them and tries to combine their wishes with yours. If you can't accept them all at least try for one. This will keep them happy.

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Oh, shit! I have forgotten something. Nowadays there are some new trends which were not a ritual in our parents time.

GIFT EXCHANGE

Your In-Laws will come with another dress for you and sometimes you may need to change your attire also with the new one. They may gift you jewelry, Mobile Phone, etc.

If they do ask you options for this don't fake tell them what you do like. In my case I prefer saree and I told them the same.

I hope I have covered the Initial stages for Engagement with this. I will be continuing in the next post with more details.

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